MOM

Mom gives birth to us with pain. Do we still want to hurt her?
Do we still laugh seeing her pain?
Mad at her?
Fight her?
Hit her?
Indifferent her?
Leave her?
Mom never complains while cleaning our dirts when we are small,
Breastfeeding us when we were baby,
Cleaning our dirty pants,
Enduring pain,
Carrying us alone.
BE AWARE that in this world no one would die for MOM, but…
She is the only person that is willing to die to give birth to us… Read More...

Collect the Cotton that Flew

For Reflection…

Once upon a time there is a successful businessman; he has abundant wealth, harmonic family and faithful best friend.

As a businessman, he has to go around various regions and states for his company progress. But in one time this businessman is contaminated by gambling culture. At first he only tries, but from a try become addiction, curious to win make this businessman deep into gambling until without realizing that the wealth that he has collected with effort all this long is used up. No one knows that this businessman has a bad habit: GAMBLING to cover his own mistake then the businessman reveals the reason he bankrupt is because he is cheated by his own best friend.

The news then rolls on from just some people, the story arouse to others, until all region acknowledge about this news, everyone sympathize towards this businessman, and blame the businessman’s best friend who cause the poverty.

The best friend knows about the news, the best friend is sad and fall ill, each day everyone scornful the best friend and avoid this best friend, the best friend situation becomes worse.

The businessman then gets news about his sick best friend. The businessman is shocked and hurry visit his best friend who is too weak and powerless lying on the bed. The businessman does not realize that the falsehood lie that he created to cover himself actually hurts his best friend’s heart. The businessman aware his fault, the businessman is so shy and asks for forgiveness “My dear friend, what can I do to redeem my mistake?”

His best friend weakly says:
“Take a pillow and go up to the roof, on top of the roof take out the pillow and take out the cotton, and spread the cartons slowly until the cotton is finished.”

The businessman does what his best friend asks, and after finish the businessman goes back to his best friend and asks: “I have done it, what is your other request?”

The best friend then says:
“Ok, now collect back all the cottons that you have spread.”

The businessman says:
“Sorry my best friend, I cannot collect it again because the cotton already flew by wind.”

The best friend then says:
“Same as the falsehood lie that you had spread, you cannot take it back again right?”

The businessman halt then hug his best friend and says:
“Thank you my best friend, even though I have done bad to you but you still teach me lesson about live, I promise I will improve my behavior and this situation with my own capability.”

Good readers:
It is hard to admit the guilt that we have done, better live heroically and responsible of our live rather than under the feeling of someone coward. There is a proverb that said slander is crueler than murder, as the story told about the lie that we spread result can make someone reputation or other name besmirched, if already besmirched what can we do?? Can we take back the lie news and clean up the besmirched? ……I don’t think so……

That’s why it is better that we could tell others good / positive much more than their negative sides.

Taken from the book: 18th Wisdom & Succes Andrie Wongso Read More...

8 Lies of a Mother

This story begins when a baby was born as a boy in a poor family. Even lack for food, when eating, mom always gave her rice portion to her boy. While she moved the rice to his bowl, his mother said:

“Eat child, Mom is not hungry” ----- MOM’S FIRST LIE

When the boy grew up, his mother tried to spare her time to go fishing in a pond near home, his mother hoped to catch a fish, so that she could give her boy nutritious food for his growth. After fishing, she cooked a fresh fish soup that is tasty. While the boy eating the soup, his mother sat beside him and eat the remaining fish meat that is still stick on the bone which was the rest of bone fish that the boy ate. He looked at his mom, his heart was touched, then use his chopstick and gave it to his mother. But his mother quickly reject it and said:

“Eat child, Mom doesn’t like to eat fish” ----- MOM’S SECOND LIES

Now the boy has entered junior high school, in order to finance his brother school fee, mom went to the cooperative to take some box of matches to stick. It gave some money to cover their needs of live. When winter came, he woke up from his bed, seeing his mother leaning on a small candle and continuing sticking the box matches. He said: “Go to sleep mom, it is already late, tomorrow morning you still have to work.”
His mother smiled and said:

“Go to bed child, Mom is not tired” ----- MOM’S THIRD LIES

While examination came, mom took leave to accompany her child testing.
Afternoon came, the sun is so bright, and his mother was still waiting on a blazing sun for couple of hours. When the bell rang, exam time was finish. Mom hurry came to me and poured a tea that already made on a cold bottle for me. The tea was so thick but cannot compare to the love that is thicker. Seeing mom was sweating heavily, the boy hurry gave his glass to his mother and asked her to drink. His mother said:

“Drink it child, Mom is not thirsty!” ----- MOM’S FOURTH LIES

After his father died because of illness, his mother has to be a father and a mother. She still worked as usual, she has to cover up her own live. Their lives became harder and harder. There is no day without suffering. Seeing their condition became worse, there was a kind-hearted uncle that lived near their house and helped the boy’s mother whether big problem or small problem. Their neighbor that lived next to the house saw their lives was so poor, often advice the boy’s mother to marry again. But the mother was so stubborn and didn’t take their advice, she said:

”I don’t need love” ----- MOM’S FIFTH LIES

When the boy and his brother all work, their mother already old and retired. But the mother didn’t want to, she was willing to go to market every morning to sell some vegetables to cover for their lives. The boy’s brother worked outside town and often sent some money to cover his mom’s needs, but she didn’t want to take it, She sent the money back. She said:

”Mom still has some money” ----- MOM’S SIXTH LIES

When the boy graduated from Bachelor Degree, he contiuned to take Master Degree and then achieved Master Degree in in a renowned university in the United States. Owing to a scholarship at a company. Finally, I worked in the company. The salary was quite high; he intended to take his mom to enjoy live in America. But mom was too kind-hearted, she didn’t want to burden her son, she then told her son:

“Mom is not accustomed to” ----- MOM’S SEVENTH LIES

After entering old age, her mother exposed to cavity cancer, has to be hospitalized, the boy who was far away across Atlantic Ocean immediately came home to visit his beloved mother. The boy saw her mother lying weak on the bed after operation. His mother looked old, she looked at her son with yearn. Even though her smile was bright but stiff because of the pain, it looked how the disease already struck his mom’s body until she looked weak and thin. He then looked at his mom with tears. His heart was ache, very hurt to see his mom with this condition. But mom still
said:

“Don’t cry my child, Mom is not sick” ----- MOM’S EIGHT LIES

After saying the eight lies, his beloved mother closed her eyes for the last time.

From above story, we believed that fellowers will all be touched and wanted to say: ”Thanks Mom”
Try to reflect, how long we haven’t called our parents?
How long we haven’t spend our time talking with our parents?
In the middle of our tight schedule, we always have thousands of reason to leave our parents lonely. We forgot there are father and mother at home.
If we compare it with our boyfriend or girlfriend, we will care more with him/her. As the matter of fact, we always worry of his/her safety, worry that he/she already eaten or not, worry that he/she will be happy with us.

But, have we ever worried about our parents?
Worried that our parents already eaten or not?
Worried that our parents already happy or not?
Is it true?
If yes, try to reflect again...
Mean while we still have time to pay back our parents, do the best.
Never reveal ”REGRET” in the future. Read More...

Learn To Love Imperfect Person With Perfect Way

Establishing special relationship needs 2 hearts that love equally, while married needs commitment to respect and appreciate each other. Therefore we need to learn to love the imperfect person with perfect way, although it is difficult.

Learn To Love Imperfect Person with Perfect Way

When we find someone right to love,
When we are in the right place on the right time,
There is Chance.
When we meet someone that makes you interesting,
It is not Choice, it is Chance.
Meeting in some event is not Choice,
It is Chance.
If we decide to love someone,
Even with his/her shortcoming,
It is not Chance, it is Choice.
When we choose to live with someone no matter what happen,
It is Choice.
Even when we realize there is so many other people
Much more interesting, smarter, richer than your spouse
And you choose to love him/her,
It is Choice.
Feeling of Love, Sympathetic, Attractive,
Comes as Chance to us.
But eternal true love is Choice,
The Choice that we take.
Talking to our soul mate,
There is a quote from a movie that seems right:
“Destiny takes us together, but it depends on how we make it all happen”
Soul mate truly exists.
And it is possible that someone is created just for you.
But it is all depend on you to make the Choice whether you want to make it happen, or not…
We might unconsciously meet our soul mate,
But to love and stay together with our soul mate,
It is Choice that we should take.
We live in the world not to look for someone perfect to love
BUT to learn to love someone not perfect with perfect way. Read More...

Between Like, Care, and Love

When you LIKE someone, you want to have it for your own selfishness.
When you CARE someone, you are likely to make him/her happy and not for your own.
When you LOVE someone, you want to do anything to make him/her happy even though have to sacrifice your own soul.

When you LIKE someone and he/she is right beside you, you will ask, “Can I kiss you?”
When you CARE someone and he/she is right beside you, you will ask, “Can I hug you?”
When you LOVE someone and he/she is right beside you, you will hold his/her arm tightly.

LIKE is when he/she cries, you will say “It’s all right, don’t cry.”
CARE is when he/she cries and you will also cry for him/her.
LOVE is when he/she cries you will let him/her cry on your shoulder while saying, “Let’s solve this problem together.”

LIKE is when you see him/her, you will say, “He/She is gorgeous and fabulous.”
CARE is when you see him/her, you will see him/her from your heart not from your eyes.
LOVE is when you see him/her, you will see him/her and say, “For me he/she is the greatest gift that God ever give me.”

When someone you LIKE hurts you, then you will be angry and will not talk to him anymore.
When someone you CARE hurts you, you will cry for him/her.
When someone you LOVE hurts you, you will say, “It’s ok he/she just don’t know what he/she is doing.”

When you LIKE him/her, you will FORCE him/her to like you.
When you CARE for him/her, you will LET HIM/HER TO CHOOSE.
When you LOVE him/her, you will always WAIT with faithfully and sincerely.

LIKE is you want to accompany him/her when it is mutual.
CARE is you want to accompany him/her when he/she needs it.
LOVE is you want to accompany him/her on how your condition is.

LIKE is something that demanding.
CARE is something to give and take.
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Be Carefull with Theatre Seat

in Paris recently and may happen elsewhere also.

A few weeks ago, in a movie theatre, a person felt something poking from her seat. When she got up to see what it was, she found a needle sticking out of the seat with a note attached saying "You have just been infected by HIV". The Disease Control Center (in Paris) reports many similar events in many other cities recently. All tested needles were HIV Positive. The Center also reports that needles have been found in cash dispensers at public banking machines. We ask everyone to use extreme caution when faced with this kind of situation. All public chairs/seats should be inspected with vigilance and caution before use. A careful visual inspection should be enough. In addition, they ask that each of you pass this message along to all members of your family and your friends of the potential danger.
Recently, one doctor has narrated a somewhat similar instance that happened to one of his patients at the Priya Cinema in Delhi. A young girl, engaged and about to be married in a couple of months, was pricked while the movie was going on. The tag with the needle had the message " Welcome to the World of HIV family". Though the doctors told her family that it takes about 6 months before the virus grows strong enough to start damaging the system and a healthy victim could survive about 5-6 years, the girl died in 4 months, perhaps more because of the "Shock thought". We all have to be careful at public places, rest God help! Read More...

REALIZE...REALIZE...REALIZE

To realize
The value of a sister/brother
Ask someone Who doesn't have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a still born.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth to A premature baby.

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one hour:
Ask the lovers who are waiting to Meet.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person who has survived an accident...

To realize
The value of one millisecond:
Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.
To realize
the value of a friend:
Lose one. Read More...

A small touching story mainly for professionals...

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.
SON: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"
DAD: "Yeah sure, what is it?" replied the man.
SON: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?" the man said angrily.
SON: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "If you must know, I make $100 an hour."
SON: "Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: "Daddy, may I please borrow $50?"
The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior."

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money? After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that 50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to
the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
"Are you asleep, son?" He asked.
"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier" said the man.
"It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you.. Here's the $50 you asked for."
The little boy sat straight up, smiling. "Oh, thank you daddy!" He yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the father grumbled.
"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied.
"Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you."
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love. If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family. Read More...

Liver damage.....don't always sleep late !!!

Liver damage
Take note...don't always sleep late!!
Good rest and sound sleep is very Important... if u don't sleep well, The toxic in your body will accumulate..Affecting your health and your mood...

The main causes of liver damage are:
1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are the main cause.
2. Not urinating in the morning.
3. Too much eating.
4. Skipping breakfast.
5. Consuming too much medication.
6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.
7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.
8. Consuming overly done foods also add to the burden of liver. Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.

We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our body to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to "schedule."

Because: Evening at 9 - 11pm : is the time for eliminating unnecessary/ toxic chemicals (de-toxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes). This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music. If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this will have a negative impact on her health.

Evening at 11pm - 1am : The de-toxification process in the liver, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state. Early morning 1 - 3am : de-toxification process in the gall, also ideally done in a deep sleep state.

Early morning 3 - 5am : de-toxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time. Since the de-toxification process had reached the respiratory tract, there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with toxin removal process.
Morning 5 - 7am : de-toxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.

Morning 7 - 9am : Absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast should be earlier, before 6:30am, for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to eat breakfast late until 9 -10am rather than no meal at all. Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood.

Therefore, have a good sleep and don't sleep late.

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