90/10 PRINCIPLE

What is 90/10 principle?

10% from your life happens because of what you experience it yourself.
90% from your life is determined from how you react.

What does this mean?
You cannot control 10% of the condition that happen to you.

For example:
You cannot avoid traffic jam. Plane late arrival and this will mess up all your schedule. This congestion has cause trouble to all of your schedule. You cannot control this 10% condition. But the difference with the other 90% is that you can control this 90%.

How? From your reaction!!
You cannot control red light, but you can control your reaction.

Let’s see below example:
Condition 1
You have breakfast with your family. Your kid accidentally spills your coffee cup and your outfit was all dirty.

Your reaction:
You scold your child because he spills the coffee to your outfit. Your kid will then cry, after scolding, you look at your wife and criticize her because she put the coffee on the edge. Finally going bust-up mouth. You run to your room and hurry change outfit. You go back to dining room, your kid still crying while finishing his food. Later your kid miss the bus. Your wife has to go to work; you rush to car and take your son to school. Because now you are late, you drive your car with 70km/hour while the limit speeds can only 60km/hour. After late about 15 minutes and forced to issue a pocket Rp. 600.000,- because the traffic violation. Finally arrive at school. Your child gets out from the car without farewell. After arrive at office about 20 minutes late, you just remembered that you left your suitcase at home. Your work day starts with a bad situation. If this continue it will become worse. Your minds are distracted because of your condition at home. When you go home, you meet some interference relationship with your wife and kind.

Why? Because of how you react in the morning.
Why you experience a bad day?
1. Is it because the spill of a coffee?
2. Is it because of your kid?
3. Is it because of the police officer?
4. Is it you?
The answer is No. 4 which the reason is yourself!!

You cannot control after what happen with you coffee cup. Your way to react in 5 seconds is the reason of your bad day.

Below is the example that you should take.
Condition 2
The spill of coffee in your outfit. Once your kid cry, you should say nicely: “it is ok dear, next time be careful". You take a small towel and run to your room. After change your outfit and take the bag, you rush to front window and see your child is taking the bus and waving at you. You then kiss your wife chicks nicely and say: “See you at dinner tonigh.” You arrive to office 5 minutes earlier with a bright face saying hello to your staff. Your boss comment your spirit and bright day in office.

Can you see the difference of this 2 conditions?
2 (two) different scenarios, start with same condition, but end with different condition.

Why?
The reason is from how you react!
You cannot control the 10% of what had happened. But the rest 90% is up to your own reaction. This is how to apply the 90/10 principle. If there is someone talk bad about you, don’t get emotion. Let the attack goes like water in a glass. You should not let that bad comment to influence you. If you react likely or one of your reaction is bad, it will cause you: Lose friend, get fired, stressed, and other lose.

How is your reaction when you face traffice jam and come late to office? Will you be angry? Hit your driving wheel? Mad? Is your temperature goes up quickly? Who will care if you come late 10 seconds?
Why you let that condition ruin your day?

Try to remember this 90/10 principle and do not worry, your problem will be solved quickly.

Another example:
- You got fired.
Why this cause you cannot sleep and worry?
There will be a way out someday. Use your lost time and energy because of the worry to look for another job.

- Plane late.
This condition ruin your whole schedule. Why you mad at the ticket officer at the airport? They cannot control what will happen. Why streesed out? This condition will make worse your own condition. Use your time to learn the situation, read a book that you take, or recognize other passenger.

Now you already know this 90/10 principle. Use it in your daily activity and be proud with the result. Nothing come lose and the result is awesome. Millions of people suffer because of stress, heavy problem, life trial and heart sick which this problem can be solved if we know how to use this 90/10 principle.

ENJOY THIS LIVES!!!